TOABH: DTR

Defining the Relationship
 
Snookum-ukums, where do you see this going?  
 
Let’s be realistic. ¬†What’s the plan with your pony? ¬†Is it a five-year investment with a return, is it until you move up beyond the Kin’s abilities, or is it forever*?

I must admit, when I saw the DTR acronym I definitely did not think defining the relationship, I thought “down to ride!” ¬†I clearly have not been in enough relationships.

Murray’s and my relationship is a little complex. ¬†I am having so much fun with him, he is teaching me so much (really, he’s immeasurably molding my riding abilities), and I am sure he will carry us both as far as he can go. ¬†But I¬†may¬†have some aspirations beyond him. ¬†Maybe. ¬†Like Prelim. Or a 1*. ¬†Or even a 2*. ¬†I might be that crazy. ¬†And I’m pretty sure that, talented as he is, kid can’t do a 2*. ¬†So few horses can.

If I could do a 2* today, there’s no way I could afford to keep Murray. I am simply not in a place where I could keep two horses (let’s ignore the expense of doing 2* events!!). ¬†In four, five, six years though? ¬†When I’m mentally and physically ready to do those things, or have probably chickened out entirely and forever? ¬†I might be able to have two horses then. ¬†I would love to have two horses then. ¬†We will see.

Regardless, after Murray and I have gone as far as we can in eventing (and I hope we will continue to event), I’d really like to see how far I can reasonably take him in dressage. ¬†He’s not fancy or chromed out (I will wear bling to make up for it), but he’s got clean changes in there, and can definitely half pass. ¬†That’s at least third level, right? ¬†Maybe there’s a bronze medal in our futures?

If and when it comes time for Murray to leave me, I will enlist the help of my current trainer to find him the right home, or retire him. ¬†She knows him inside and out, and even if she is not Murray’s favourite person, I know that she will do her absolute best by him.

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In other news, DIY Horse Ownership is having a 100th post giveaway on her blog! ¬†Olivia makes these beautiful carved wooden stall signs. ¬†Don’t you want one? You know you do!! ¬†Go check out her post and enter the contest!